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my boyfriend, my bestfriend, my soulmate…all in one ♥  Only God knows how much love I have for this amazingly beautiful man. I thank God everyday for blessing me with someone like him and I am forever grateful 

my boyfriend, my bestfriend, my soulmate…all in one ♥ 

Only God knows how much love I have for this amazingly beautiful man. I thank God everyday for blessing me with someone like him and I am forever grateful 

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soliaswagg: provocatoria: materialworld: Third Gender Soccer Star Leads Samoa to Victory Laurie and Debbie say: Jonny “Jayieh” Saelua was just named “Man of the Match” for his goal assist and 90th minute goal-line clearance which helped lead Samoa to its first victory in 30 consecutive games, and in a World Cup qualifying match at that. The “Man of the Match” is transgender; more specifically, she is fa’afafine: According to 30-year-old Alex Su’a, who heads the Samoa Fa’afafine Society, there are 1,500 fa’afafine in Samoa and American Samoa. “To be fa’afafine you have to be Samoan, born a man, feel you are a woman, be sexually attracted to males and, importantly, proud to be called and labeled fa’afafine,” Su’a said. “The fa’afafine are culturally accepted,” he said. “They have a role in Samoan society. They are the caretakers of the elders because their brothers and sisters get married, but the fa’afafine traditionally don’t.” “I just go out and play soccer as a soccer player,” Saelua said. “Not as transgender, not as a boy and not as a girl. Just as a soccer player.” When gender issues arise in sports, they are usually contentious and regressive: a person competing as a woman is either accused of “actually being a man” or “being too masculine to really be a woman.”Being “masculine” is equated with being stronger, more powerful, and more skilled. Saelua’s team’s acceptance of her identity shows us another way. American Samoa’s goalkeeper Nicky Salapu says of Saelua, “He’s like a brother to us and he’s like a sister to us.” Saelua and her teammates are modeling something much of the rest of the world is not familiar with: ease and acceptance of gender identifications and presentations that aren’t binary. Like the Native American and First Nations concept of “two-spirit” people, the Samoan concept of fa’afine opens up some badly-needed space between the rigid genders of the binary system. via Body Impolitic - Blog Archive - » Third Gender Soccer Star Leads Samoa to Victory - Laurie Toby Edison: Photographer necessary note re: non-binary naming fa’afafine isn’t really an interchangable term with transgender. Yes, many fa’afafine people use western LGBTI terms or identities as well, if relevant to them, especially in western cities with existing large LGBTI scences. But: please don’t default use trans* terminology and naming for fa’afafine people - unless the individual chooses to use both. It could be very misleading about the individual, and it centers western colonizer understandings of gender over existing, regionally distinct ones anyway. I bolded the important parts of the commentary. Im pretty sure im related to him. haha. at least my cousins say we are.  That’s my first cousin :)))) LOVE YOU JAIYAH

soliaswagg:

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materialworld:

Third Gender Soccer Star Leads Samoa to Victory

Laurie and Debbie say: Jonny “Jayieh” Saelua was just named “Man of the Match” for his goal assist and 90th minute goal-line clearance which helped lead Samoa to its first victory in 30 consecutive games, and in a World Cup qualifying match at that.

The “Man of the Match” is transgender; more specifically, she is fa’afafine: According to 30-year-old Alex Su’a, who heads the Samoa Fa’afafine Society, there are 1,500 fa’afafine in Samoa and American Samoa. “To be fa’afafine you have to be Samoan, born a man, feel you are a woman, be sexually attracted to males and, importantly, proud to be called and labeled fa’afafine,” Su’a said. “The fa’afafine are culturally accepted,” he said. “They have a role in Samoan society. They are the caretakers of the elders because their brothers and sisters get married, but the fa’afafine traditionally don’t.”

“I just go out and play soccer as a soccer player,” Saelua said. “Not as transgender, not as a boy and not as a girl. Just as a soccer player.” When gender issues arise in sports, they are usually contentious and regressive: a person competing as a woman is either accused of “actually being a man” or “being too masculine to really be a woman.”Being “masculine” is equated with being stronger, more powerful, and more skilled. Saelua’s team’s acceptance of her identity shows us another way. American Samoa’s goalkeeper Nicky Salapu says of Saelua, “He’s like a brother to us and he’s like a sister to us.” Saelua and her teammates are modeling something much of the rest of the world is not familiar with: ease and acceptance of gender identifications and presentations that aren’t binary.

Like the Native American and First Nations concept of “two-spirit” people, the Samoan concept of fa’afine opens up some badly-needed space between the rigid genders of the binary system.

via Body Impolitic - Blog Archive - » Third Gender Soccer Star Leads Samoa to Victory - Laurie Toby Edison: Photographer

necessary note re: non-binary naming

fa’afafine isn’t really an interchangable term with transgender. Yes, many fa’afafine people use western LGBTI terms or identities as well, if relevant to them, especially in western cities with existing large LGBTI scences. But: please don’t default use trans* terminology and naming for fa’afafine people - unless the individual chooses to use both. It could be very misleading about the individual, and it centers western colonizer understandings of gender over existing, regionally distinct ones anyway.

I bolded the important parts of the commentary.

Im pretty sure im related to him. haha. at least my cousins say we are. 

That’s my first cousin :)))) LOVE YOU JAIYAH

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trvie asked: Happy 21st Birthday! I hope you're having a blast and having the time of your life. Take care and may God bless you with many more years to come! :)

I’m so sorry i’m late in replying. But thank you so much! I had an amazing & unforgettable 21st :)